I don’t really want to talk to you today. I’m having an introvert moment. But I’ve made a promise to myself that I’d try to blog more, so I thought I’d tell you about how I’m feeling to see if I can connect with other introverts. I know you’re out there so put down your book and listen a minute. Let’s celebrate us.
I like to google words and then switch the results view to images. Often the pictures inspire me in my writing. When I googled “introvert”, however, I was surprised to find words. Lots and lots of words. Homecoming!
When I was in high school, an assignment in a sociology class was to create a collage that illustrated your world. I loved the assignment, and diligently clipped things from magazines to create a poster that I was ever so proud of. I was excited to share it with the class… until I saw that I was the only one who used words, only words. Granted, they were artistic words, done with different fonts, colors and sizes. My prize project only illustrated how apart from everything I was, and how boring to other people. I’m still proud of what I created. It was me.
I had my annual review at work this week. My boss said that I was a people person, which caused a lot of screaming in my head. (“Oh, no, I’m not. Far from it!) To me, being a people person means that you’re outgoing, and I am anything but that. I care about people, that’s true, but I just don’t like being around them all the time. I can take people in small, short doses before needing to escape.
I’ve learned to be a pretend extrovert at work. It’s fun to play at it, but exhausting. Fortunately, I work from home. The days I have to go into the office are painful for me. The building is large and holds thousands of people. So much noise and constant interruptions. How do people get work done there?
I’m a good public speaker and a leader at work. I think I play “extrovert” pretty well. I know that people can’t understand why I don’t want to go to after work social functions. I don’t want to blow my cover.
In a Huffingtonpost article, they noted, “Giving a talk in front of 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards.” I say Amen to that.
I’m reading Susan Cain’s book, “Quiet”. I recommend it for everyone to gain a little understanding in living with yourself (if you’re an introvert) or dealing with others if you aren’t. The Introvert – Extrovert Quiz
Spatial Orientation lists the 10 Myths about Introverts. They were all so good I couldn’t pick a favorite.
Duncan Parviainen writes about being an introverted yoga teacher, and mentions many things that are true for me as well. “I will usually turn down lunch and dinner invitations to be by myself, not because I do not like you, but because that is how I recharge my energy.”
Chris also contributes to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.