Introvert Cartoon of the Week

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Hi.  I’m Chris.  I’m an introvert.  And, no, I didn’t draw this, just found it on the net.  Look for my ongoing series debunking the introvert myths (Sunday) and introvert cartoons (Wednesday), plus anything else interesting that I find in the meantime.    Come and share with like-minded introverts.

Chris also contributes to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.

15 thoughts on “Introvert Cartoon of the Week

  1. Morning Chris 🙂 See, this is what I don’t get with me – I love a hug. When my friends see me, even close acquaintances, we have a natural instinct to hug each other, and I’m not fazed by it. But, if I’m crying, the last thing I need is a hug because that emotional/physical connection makes me uncomfortable. I’d rather someone sit with me and listen.

    But saying that, at my friends funeral last year, a close friend’s daughter had her left arm round my shoulder and her right hand stroking my hand (I cried throughout, I was devastated) and I was 100% okay with that. Maybe I was too upset to care, I don’t know. Same with the friend who broke the news to me of my friend’s death, I let him physically comfort me.

    Something has occurred to me. Do you think it may be a possibility that it’s not with ‘us’ but actually with ‘who’ is doing the comforting? The two people above are genuine, caring souls. But what if (I know I’m going in deep here) someone isn’t genuine in their hugging and/or there’s something not right with them that you can feel, like a gut instinct, and that’s what makes you not want to be hugged? A friendly hug or a comforting hug, maybe we allow based on if we trust the person?

    I’m learning here and maybe you’re right that we have an element of both Intro and Extro in us and we all just display each trait differently. I’m enjoying exploring this! 🙂

    • I am a HUGE hugger. The cartoon pokes fun at introverts because I think we all need to laugh at ourselves just a wee bit, but it also has a bit of underlying truth to it.

      Introverts can be incredibly empathetic. In our quiet way, we observe more of life than many other people, and we feel deeply. I think you are accurate in saying that it isn’t the hugging, it’s the person doing the hugging. Physical contact is just one more form of stimulation, and it can be overwhelming and drain us or we can find it enriching and comforting, depending on how we feel about the other person and our current energy level. You said, “But, if I’m crying, the last thing I need is a hug because that emotional/physical connection makes me uncomfortable.” When you are overwhelmed by something (hence the crying), the last thing you need is more stimulation bringing down your energy levels.

      Kudos to you for being aware of your body’s signals and honoring them.

      Here’s a safe virtual hug for you, but only if you want it.

      • Ahh… Thank you! Of course I want a hug! And likewise too, sending a big one back 😀

        ..”Introverts can be incredibly empathetic. In our quiet way, we observe more of life than many other people, and we feel deeply”..

        I couldn’t agree more. It amazes me how ‘out of touch’ some people are. I ‘see’ everything, if that makes sense; but that ability is very draining, though I’d rather have it than not.

        I just want to say Thank You for doing all this, you’ve a real knack for talking to people, bringing discussions out and giving those of us ‘confuse-o’s’ some clarity.

        I left a note on your reading challenge page: What a great idea. I’m signing up to CORL 2014 as it will help get my rear into gear and get those books I’ve been meaning to read, read. It’s the push I need for the highly enjoyable – and superbly Fun – most favoured Introvert hobby! 😀

        It’s all good Chris, you are bringing a lot to many people 🙂

    • Hhhmmm… interesting question. Still can’t get around the body physiology. Innies still need internal time and outies need the thrill of external stimulation. Our brains are wired differently, or so they tell me.

      I just got done listening to the bit of Demon Dance. Are you sure you aren’t Erik Satie reincarnated?

  2. I wouldn’t mind a hug! Anyone! Please!!! I’m heeeereeee…..
    But off course… not anyone…. a stranger… no… and not all the time… no…

    I’m joking a bit here, but I’ve read all the comments and I totally agree with you. What you and Victoria said was just so to the point.
    Somehow I have known for a long time I’m introvert but never thought much about it!
    I jumped a bit when you mentioned: ..”Introverts can be incredibly empathetic. In our quiet way, we observe more of life than many other people, and we feel deeply”… But I can see that! I am like that. For better and for worse. It’s not always a positive thing o be too empathetic.

    But it is very nice to learn more about oneself, so I’m greatful you started to write about these matters.

    Hugs!!!! Safe cyber-ones!

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