This is the third in a weekly series debunking myths about introverts. (See last week’s post.) The basis of the 10 week series is the article written by Carl King. I will show his thinking, add mine and then encourage all of you to contribute your thoughts on the subject.
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Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
Carl: This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Chris: I absolutely agree with Carl on this.
Introverts have too much going on in our heads as it is to want to play the small talk game. We like meaningful conversations, meaningful relationships, and meaningful purpose to things. Small talk is a waste of brain cells and oxygen.
Some people have almost accused me of being a closet extrovert. They question whether I really am as much of an introvert as I claim because I communicate so well on this blog. The only reason I can do that is because when I’m writing about introverts I am in my passion. I have a HUGE amount to say on the topic. But get me outside of my comfort zone and I shut down and observe, watching the clock and wanting to go home, just like any other introvert.
When I have to do the small talk thing, I’m good at the weather because I was a trained meteorologist when I was young. It’s still a topic I enjoy. The problem is that the weather isn’t small talk for me, so I usually end up going overboard and realize it when I see people’s eyes glazing over.
I can also talk about grief because of the work I do with grieving children, but let me tell you, that is not a good party topic.
OK, that’s the extent of my small talk. Seriously. That’s it. Yep, I’m the life of a party.
When I first started this blog, it was my third or fourth attempt at blogging, and it was going downhill quickly. I would sweat blood over one entry. It would take me four hours to do a few paragraphs. Why? It wasn’t the writing. I love words. I love writing. It was the small talk. For those of you who are finding it challenging to write your blog, I will bet it’s because in the back of your mind blogging = small talk. Pick a subject that you love and the words will come more easily.
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