Introvert Dancing

dancingAh, dancing.  My favorite memories of dancing involve sitting in the audience watching someone else dance.  I enjoy ballet and all of its beauty.  But that’s as far as my dancing goes.

I had polio as a child and have one short leg.  That doesn’t mean I can’t dance.  It means I’m not the most coordinated of people, so trying to translate physical movement into something graceful is challenging for me.  I just never learned anything like that, even as a child playing by myself.

But the biggest reason I avoid dancing is because I’m very much an introvert, and doing anything that draws attention to me like that is painful.  I’m even embarrassed to dance around in my own living room by myself.  If I’m not good at something, I don’t like doing it and I don’t like people seeing it.  Maybe this is one of the times that I cross the line between introvert and shy.  I’m a shy introvert when it comes to dancing.  No matter how you define it, it translates into a fate almost worse than death.  I’d rank it right up there with having a root canal or a tooth pulled.  Actually, I think I’d rather go to the dentist than have to dance around looking like a fool.

I’m content to be an observer of the dance.

Written in response to the WordPress daily prompt, Let’s Dance.

Hi.  I’m Chris.  I’m an introvert.  Look for my ongoing series debunking the introvert myths (Sunday) and introvert cartoons (Wednesday), plus anything else interesting that I find in the meantime.  Come and share with like-minded introverts.  I also contribute to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.

7 thoughts on “Introvert Dancing

  1. Found your blog yesterday, and have been reading a few of your articles, as time allows. Love it! I was what you can describe as pathologically shy until age 20 something. Went to see a shrink because it was truly affecting my ability to function – I think I now come through to people as an extrovert, but I do prefer my own company to being with others. Still, I absolutely LOVE to dance

    I can see how that could be a huge problem to a real introvert – but I wonder, would you enjoy dancing alone in a room to a favorite song? It could be fun, just enjoy it by yourself, for yourself.

  2. Chris – I understand why your childhood polio affected the way you saw yourself and your movements. I’ve learned, though, that “graceful” comes in all forms, shapes and abilities. We need to stay vigilant about drowning out our inner critics. My husband shares your aversion to dance (altho we’ve had a few memorable occasions). I keep wishing/hoping he’ll change, but he’s so convinced he has no rhythm, I’m not sure he’ll ever relax enough to feel it. But I gently encourage … once in awhile…

  3. I love music, and I love the beat, and I love the concept of dancing. But like you, I rarely step onto that dance floor. Only at family weddings after a few beers will I dare to step into the ring. But I always head straight to the back…

  4. I recently attended a ‘nurture session’ that included a bit of yoga and some meditation but it also included dancing. I couldn’t do it. Didn’t matter that I was in a small room with only 5 other people. Just like you I’ve never liked dancing because I don’t like drawing attention to myself. I don’t have a physical disability but I’ve always felt uncoordinated when dancing. The instructor prefaced the dancing with the comment “we all danced as children”. No, actually, I don’t think we did. I do not recall dancing even as a young child. I was painfully shy and seen as very serious.

    But I’m into pushing boundaries. I have another session next week and I’m going to close my eyes and I’m going to dance. Maybe just a little bit.

  5. When I had children I always danced with them. Even in the supermarket I would put out my arms and we would “waltz” for a few seconds. They are grown now and I still do the same thing with them – I love that they don’t even blink an eye but just step into it. Dancing together and forgetting what is around you is wonderful. Dance away.

  6. I loved to dance! I would go off in my own little world on the dance floor, not really paying attention to anyone else, just moving to the music & ocassionally meeting the eye of the person I was dancing with (just to let them know I was still there). Now I’m restricted to chair dancing & will only do it in private, but I still love it.

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