(Reminder: Our first Club Introvert social event is in progress. Go to the information page and then proceed to have a lot of quiet fun getting to know fellow club members. If you have participated, thank you for playing along.)
A little while ago I did something somewhat rash. I declared, in public, that I would start an introverts blog on our company’s in-house blog. I was flush from the success of this blog and wanted to take it into the workplace. I think it’s needed there. After all, we spend more of our awake hours with our co-workers than we do with our family and friends, often times. Lots of you have said that you’ve printed things out to share with co-workers. There is a need.
Here’s where I want your help. I’m not sure of what to write. Can you believe it? Me? Maybe it’s just that there are too many things to write about and I can’t grab just one of them long enough to hold on to it. Since there are a lot more of you than there are of me, and a lot of you work for companies of various sizes, I thought I’d ask you for some topics. So please pitch in and give me ideas.
Here are the ones I can think about:
Forced socializing: I recently wrote about having to attend a going away party for my old team. I feel so uncomfortable when I’m being forced to be social. And socializing during working hours is bad enough, but when I’m expected to socialize after work, I draw the line. Don’t even bother to ask.
Chatty work mates: People who stop by your desk just to shoot the breeze. People who stop by other people’s desks near yours just to shoot the breeze. People who get offended or worried about you when they see you wearing your Introvert Face.
Cubicle farms: Ugh! Open work spaces would be even worse, I suppose. Furniture and space makes a difference.
Annual reviews: a lot of American companies hold annual reviews of your performance during which one or more supervisors judges you and lists out your successes and weaknesses (usually with emphasis on the later because we should all Strive To Do Better). Do you have to do the same thing? How many of you get chastised for being too quiet?
Public humiliation (otherwise known as award presentations): And when I am doing a good job, just tell me privately and quietly. If you feel that you absolutely have to acknowledge me publicly, just send an email or something out to the whole group. Don’t make me stand up in front of a lot of applauding people. I feel like an idiot. I know the thought is sincere, but it only makes me want to retreat into my shell. It’s a disincentive.
Do those topics work? What else should be on the list? What have been your bad experiences that could have been made much better with an understanding of how introverts feel? I have to present both sides… what doesn’t work and what would work.
Thanks for helping out. Have a quiet day.
Hi. I’m Chris. I’m an introvert. Look for my ongoing series debunking the introvert myths (Sunday) and introvert cartoons (Wednesday), plus anything else interesting that I find in the meantime. Come and share with like-minded introverts. I also contribute to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.