This is the eighth in a weekly series debunking myths about introverts. (See last week’s post.) The basis of the 10 week series is the article written by Carl King. I will show his thinking, add mine and then encourage all of you to contribute your thoughts on the subject.
Don’t know if you’re an introvert or an extrovert? Take Susan Cain’s quiz.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Carl: Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Chris: I am more likely to be accused of being a snob than of being aloof, I think. Here’s the hard part about speaking to this myth, which will be an answer unto itself, because the people who I allow to know me all love me. The ones I haven’t let into my inner circle are people I don’t really care about, so I have no idea what they think about me. Furthermore, I’m not even curious about it. Does that make me aloof? I don’t know, and I don’t care.
Carl is right in that we introverts place more value in our inner life than in an outer social life. I know that I am intensely curious about many, many things. There is always some delicious exploring to do. Why would I want to waste that precious time in meaningless chit chat?
The people in my life who can understand and respect my introvert life are special to me. I share myself with them, and am happy to do so. I care deeply about them in return.
I’m selective. That is true. There is nothing wrong with that. From the looks of all the mindless twaddle out on television and in the movies these days, I would think that selectivity would be a desirable trait to encourage.
Those of you who are cat people will understand me when I say that cats are the epitome of introverts. They have selective hearing and will deliberately ignore anything not worthy of their attention. They choose you, and not the other way around. They do things their own way. They are intensely curious and can focus with laser beam precision. When they are wanting to play, they play hard, but as soon as something gets boring they walk away. They don’t feel the need to apologize for their early departure, or even to accept every invitation that comes their way.
I want to give a shout out to everyone who responded to yesterday’s blurb about haircuts. I am thrilled to find out I’m not the only person in the world who dreads getting my hair done. I thought it was just me. (And how many times have we all said that as we’ve shared our introvert lives with each other!)
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Have a quiet day!
Hi. I’m Chris. I’m an introvert. Look for my ongoing series debunking the introvert myths (Sunday) and introvert cartoons (Wednesday), plus anything else interesting that I find in the meantime. Come and share with like-minded introverts. I also contribute to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.