Introvert Celebration of the Inner Creative

ghostbustersSunday blog on Celebrating the Introvert, Take 12:

I’ve been working on this particular post all week.  I’ve rewritten it a bajillion times.  It’s not working out.  I’m trying to talk about the introvert experience in a positive way and all that old, negative junk keeps seeping in. I need to call in some Ghost Busters.  I need to get rid of Freud and Eysenck and all the other nay-sayers that define introverts as badly repressed extroverts.  When I try to celebrate the things I love about being an introvert, I hear the noisy world of long dead psychologists sneering at me.    “What’s so great about being alone and not having social skills”, they ask?  “Go away”, I whisper.

I live in America, which is a particularly noisy country.  I don’t know what your country is like, but mine is noisy, noisy, noisy.  Bigger and louder seems to be considered better.  It’s easy to get drowned out.  That’s what is so good about all of us finally beginning to talk with each other.  A little quiet, civilized conversation goes a long way to feeding the soul.

I was thinking about going out for breakfast somewhere.  What would an ideal cafe be for the introvert?  Small tables, certainly.  Lots of little ones for only two people so that if you’re in the mood to dine alone you won’t have to wait around while all the noisy groups are seated.  You will have priority seating.  The decor will be simple, but warm, nothing extravagant.  And it should have light and views to a pretty garden.  An atrium, perhaps.  Introverts love nature, don’t you know!  I think that the menu should have mouthwatering photographs of each dish, along with a listing of the ingredients.  Introverts like a lot of gentle sensory stimulation, so in my world menus would come with photos.  And things wouldn’t be crammed on to the page.  Leave me plenty of white space between items so that I have time to think about what I want.

Don’t give me a ton of options for my meal.  Twenty entrees, really?  Just a handful, but a well rounded handful so that I can try different things.  Balance the textures and tastes, too.  No one dimensional food for us.  Make it interesting, make sure it’s pretty.   Introverts can be perfectionists, so pleasing all the senses would make for fine dining for us.

Make sure the tables have a place to put our books so we can read while we eat.  Or a place for our tablets.

Music?  Yes, we can have music, but it should be subdued.  Something that doesn’t interfere with reading or quiet conversations.  It doesn’t have to be classical, either.

What would your restaurant be like?  I know you’re already thinking about it.  Do you know how I know that?  Because introverts are quite the creative souls.  We’re always making notes and filing data away, so when you ask us to imagine something, it’s very easy to do.  I think that’s why we love reading and writing so much.  We love going places in our minds.  We love understanding, figuring things out, and then extending them to new situations, new worlds, new ideas.  Where would the world be without us?  It would be a much more boring place, I posit.  It’s hard to give birth to new ideas is a noisy, crowded world.

What do you do to celebrate your Inner Creative life?  For me, I write and talk with people like you.  But what about you?  Are you a poet, writer, painter, photographer?  How do you express all the new ideas coming out of you?

Hi.  I’m Chris.  I’m an introvert.  Look for my ongoing series celebrating introverts (Sunday), writing prompts for introverts (Monday) and introvert cartoons (Wednesday), plus anything else interesting that I find in the meantime.  Come and share with like-minded introverts.  I also contribute to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.


36 thoughts on “Introvert Celebration of the Inner Creative

  1. I know a few places like this. worst ever thing is when I’m in one and some, usually young, entrepreneur decides to have a business meeting there at the top of his self-aggrandising voice so that the whole place can hear.

  2. “A little quiet, civilized conversation goes a long way to feeding the soul…” well said – and I also liked the point about the “noise” – and journaling (in an old fashioned style notebook with a good ball point pen) has always been a creative pleasure for me….not always words – sometimes doodling, drawing patterns int he margins – and just quietly reflecting with the page before me….
    nice post and hope ya’ll have a great Sunday!

    • I wish I could do that. I tried again recently to journal by hand and wrote one entry and that was it. My hand can’t keep up with my brain and I get so frustrated. I would love to doodle, but I am so analytical that I’m always trying to figure out the “right” way to do it. Yes, I know it isn’t supposed to work like that, but I’m having a hard time just letting go and letting my little doodler loose.

      One of the bloggers I follow is Sacha Chua @, who is purposefully growing her sketching to capture her ideas. I would love to hang out a little with her.

      • Thanks for the reply! 🙂 and it just goes to show that we all have our own ways to relax – because sketching does not relax me – it does once in a while, but “sketching” is where my anal side kicks in and the aim for getting it “right” pulls from any joy (becomes such a chore) and so I think it is interesting how different types of “pen and pencil” work unfolds – what’s relaxing to one is a chore (or bore) to someone else. ha!
        and okay, real quick I have to share how my relaxing doodling came about. It started with free drawing cells. you know, lots of little circles (or more sure shaped ones if I was making tree cells all lined up) but I guess all those science drawings I did trickled over – and so I used to just doodle and move the pen (which is much different from sketching -to me at least – which I am okay at – but just do not enjoy very much).

        • Hey again – and real quick wanted your o know that the Sacha link did not work, but I found it with her name (
          and yeah, her pictures seem simple enough and I like the way she uses them as an organizing and coping tool – creative. Thanks for noting her blog – I will be sure to check back there from time to time.

          • Thanks. I’ve tried to revise the link three times but WordPress keeps stripping out the code. Very strange. Probably some new “enhancement”. I edited my reply to include her URL, too.

        • I’m with you. That darned anal side is annoying, isn’t it? When I try to doodle it feels too much like Small Talk… something I have to do but don’t like to do because I never know what to say next. So why bother? *sigh*

  3. I actually have a place like this! But there are others I imagine. One of my favorite things growing up was going on “dates” with my dad: to the book store, where I would find some fascinating book, go to the store cafe, get a coffee and a sandwich, and sit in one of those comfy armchairs they had, reading for as long as we were there. For a time, I headed to the magazine stand to read Rolling Stone, Revolver, and other music scene and guitar/bass themed publications. Hours and hours.

  4. I’ve been working on a novel (novella?) and I’ve been stuck on this part of it. This post just gave me an idea and inspired me! Thank you! Badly repressed extroverts, my a**.

  5. Yours is an inspirational initiative. My introversion is combined with shyness. It is only in the last two years that I have learnt to be myself rather than trying to be something else to fit in – pathetic in hindsight 🙂 I enjoy being creative, I grasp moments when I can, capturing them in photographs and words. I plan to do more sketching and painting when I have more time..

    • I think that over the last few years I have allowed my introversion to get more ingrained, and not in a good way. It’s gotten too easy for me to talk myself out of going outside and doing things because they seem overwhelming all too quickly. Overwhelming in the sense that I think I’ll get sensory overload too quickly. I think sometimes that equates to feeling a little shy. Does that mean anything to you?

  6. Hmm! I think the ideal café for an introvert would have a filtering system at the door which would prevent anyone of the patrons’ acquaintance entering. That way they would not be required to make small talk whilst trying to enjoy their breakfast alone.

  7. Your ideal restaurant tallies with my favorite one where there is also a choice of indoors or outdoors sitting. Outdoor has a fountain that adds to the charm. I do a lot of reading and writing in my profession, and a place conducive to that is my garden. There, I can look at trees and flowers and listen to my own fountain and the birds softly talking to one another.

    • We have a place like that. It has a glassed in patio (necessary in a climate where it rains nine months out of the year) overlooking wetlands. We can watch the ducks and herons feeding, an occasional raccoon or beaver, and look at the beautiful plant life.

      We’re planting our garden to create an oasis like yours. It’s going to be filled with natural color to satisfy the photographer in Cee and quiet enough for me to sit and think.

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  9. Hi Chris – your posts and ideas this week have been read-worthy and uplifting. Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back for encouraging thoughtful discussion and prompts. See you next week.

  10. I paint, and what I call scribbling, story’s for my granddaughter, poems, random thoughts. I prefer writing on paper, love the way a pen feels moving on different kinds of paper. The way it looks. And I often change my hand writing style.
    No ideal cafe for me. I don’t really care much for eating out.

  11. Writing, listening and photography. Sometimes all at once.I’m good at multitasking 😀 Then again, I am a Gemini.
    My country is quite silent.If you talk to a stranger, they just look at you weird.”Are you talking to me? I don’t even know you?” -kind of attitude.

  12. I really like that restraunt, and that menu! A seat near a little water feature in an indoor garden, some smooth jazz playing softly, endless iced tea and chocolate chips in a crystal dish… Pull up a great comfy seat, grab a magazine from the nearby stack, I’ve got a copy of the New Yorker with a monstrously awesome long article by Seymour Hersch… Sounds like heaven to me! Thanks for the great fantasy, that was fun!

  13. So true. I hate to go to restaurants where there are live bands. And people do go on about it. “LIVE BANDS!” If I wanted to yell over my dinner, I’d invite a dozen small children to join me. Mercy. I’d rather eat to muzak, thank you very much.

  14. Hi there – finally decided to comment – mostly because I’m not entirely sure that I’m truly an introvert – because if I’m with friends I trust, I can be quite the bubbly outgoing personality – and generally people are drawn to me – unless I’m snarling 😉

    Seriously though, I do have some serious introvert tendencies – probably just an intense shyness – really – hard to believe because I’ve always been outspoken – but my true comfort zone can be very quiet, reflective and highly observant. Anyhow, I just wanted to say that I’m loving your space and posts – and no matter what my split -60/40 or 40/60 in whatever combo chosen, I can relate to much of what you’re writing here.

    As for the question how do I celebrate the inner Creative? Mostly writing, photography, gardening, – anything I can visualize and get out and down in some way – or simply by observing and watching – appreciating – it all translates into viable info to use in some way shape and form later 🙂

    Great space Chris! Cheers!

  15. Your description of the ideal restaurant is spot-on for me. Especially the items on the menu – not too many, not too few. Is that really too much to ask? 🙂

    In thinking about expressing an inner creative self, the first thing that comes to mind is cooking, but I’m not sure if that qualifies as “creative” per se. But I like the rhythm of it, the process of trying new things, and of course, the satisfaction of eating! 🙂

  16. My restaurant would be a tiny hole in the wall on a bluff overlooking the sea. No music, just the sound of waves crashing against the shore or whispering along the sand. The tables would be like old small desks for two, with drawers where we can put our books or tablets or readers while we’re actually eating the food. I would like the food displayed as a sample with a recipe card in a case just inside the door when you come in, so you can look at all the dishes & pick the one you like best. Then you place your order, fill up your coffee cup & pick a seat. A server brings your meal to the table but you get up to get your own refills on coffee, etc. You have 2 conversations with the people of the restaurant – you place your order & you tell them how the meal was as you pay, otherwise they leave you alone to eat, read, have a conversation with a buddy, etc.

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