Sunday blog on Celebrating the Introvert, Take 12:
I’ve been working on this particular post all week. I’ve rewritten it a bajillion times. It’s not working out. I’m trying to talk about the introvert experience in a positive way and all that old, negative junk keeps seeping in. I need to call in some Ghost Busters. I need to get rid of Freud and Eysenck and all the other nay-sayers that define introverts as badly repressed extroverts. When I try to celebrate the things I love about being an introvert, I hear the noisy world of long dead psychologists sneering at me. “What’s so great about being alone and not having social skills”, they ask? “Go away”, I whisper.
I live in America, which is a particularly noisy country. I don’t know what your country is like, but mine is noisy, noisy, noisy. Bigger and louder seems to be considered better. It’s easy to get drowned out. That’s what is so good about all of us finally beginning to talk with each other. A little quiet, civilized conversation goes a long way to feeding the soul.
I was thinking about going out for breakfast somewhere. What would an ideal cafe be for the introvert? Small tables, certainly. Lots of little ones for only two people so that if you’re in the mood to dine alone you won’t have to wait around while all the noisy groups are seated. You will have priority seating. The decor will be simple, but warm, nothing extravagant. And it should have light and views to a pretty garden. An atrium, perhaps. Introverts love nature, don’t you know! I think that the menu should have mouthwatering photographs of each dish, along with a listing of the ingredients. Introverts like a lot of gentle sensory stimulation, so in my world menus would come with photos. And things wouldn’t be crammed on to the page. Leave me plenty of white space between items so that I have time to think about what I want.
Don’t give me a ton of options for my meal. Twenty entrees, really? Just a handful, but a well rounded handful so that I can try different things. Balance the textures and tastes, too. No one dimensional food for us. Make it interesting, make sure it’s pretty. Introverts can be perfectionists, so pleasing all the senses would make for fine dining for us.
Make sure the tables have a place to put our books so we can read while we eat. Or a place for our tablets.
Music? Yes, we can have music, but it should be subdued. Something that doesn’t interfere with reading or quiet conversations. It doesn’t have to be classical, either.
What would your restaurant be like? I know you’re already thinking about it. Do you know how I know that? Because introverts are quite the creative souls. We’re always making notes and filing data away, so when you ask us to imagine something, it’s very easy to do. I think that’s why we love reading and writing so much. We love going places in our minds. We love understanding, figuring things out, and then extending them to new situations, new worlds, new ideas. Where would the world be without us? It would be a much more boring place, I posit. It’s hard to give birth to new ideas is a noisy, crowded world.
What do you do to celebrate your Inner Creative life? For me, I write and talk with people like you. But what about you? Are you a poet, writer, painter, photographer? How do you express all the new ideas coming out of you?
Hi. I’m Chris. I’m an introvert. Look for my ongoing series celebrating introverts (Sunday), writing prompts for introverts (Monday) and introvert cartoons (Wednesday), plus anything else interesting that I find in the meantime. Come and share with like-minded introverts. I also contribute to the new food blog Three’s Cooking, learning to cook from the heart, for the soul.