Time for Chapter 2 of “Quiet Influence; The Introvert’s Guide to Making a Difference” by Jennifer Kahnweiler. She’s an extrovert who does a lot of coaching of introverts. I thought that might be an interesting perspective.
In the remainder of Chapter 2, the introvert strengths are put into a process to quietly influence. Here are the strengths again…
- Taking quiet time
- Engaged Listening
- Focused Conversations
- Thoughtful Use of Social Media
The quiet influence process takes those strengths in order, adding one to the previous each, to make a process that can be powerful. About “Taking Quiet Time”, Kahnweiler says that “being silent provides energy, increases self-awareness and spurs creativity”. I hadn’t thought of it that way before, but it’s quite true. Our quiet recharge times give us a lot more than just energy, don’t they?
Next comes Preparation. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I like to do my research, look at things from different angles, and then rehearse, rehearse, rehearse. “Through creating a strategy and asking questions, they become more comfortable and confident in their efforts to influence others.”
Those two strengths provide the core of the process. To that we can add one or more of the remaining strengths. Engaged Listening builds “rapport and mutual understanding” which can lead to Focused Conversations, which are “purpose-driven dialogues in which they problem solve and work through conflicts with others”.
Then there is Writing, through which quiet influencers “articulate authentic, well-developed positions to make a difference with others”. We end with Thoughtful Use of Social Media, which allows us to reach a broader audience… just like this blog does.
Kahnweiler closes the chapter by noting that we don’t have to excel in all the strengths, or use them all every time.
Chapter 3 is a test to determine my Quiet Influence Quotient (QIQ). I can’t give you the test here because of copyright issues, but you check out the book yourself, or take the test on the author’s web site. (Note: the free quiz that is listed on the web site isn’t the same one that is in the book. i didn’t find the free quiz to be very interesting or revealing.) The test in the book has eighteen questions that you answer on a sliding scale to assess your strengths.
Stay tuned for my summary of Chapter 3. I’ll also take you into the remainder of the book where each strength is explored in more depth.
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