Quietly Influencing – The Process

quietInfluenceTime for Chapter 2 of “Quiet Influence; The Introvert’s Guide to Making a Difference” by Jennifer Kahnweiler.  She’s an extrovert who does a lot of coaching of introverts.  I thought that might be an interesting perspective.

In the remainder of Chapter 2, the introvert strengths are put into a process to quietly influence.  Here are the strengths again…

Introvert Strengths:

  • Taking quiet time
  • Preparation
  • Engaged Listening
  • Focused Conversations
  • Writing
  • Thoughtful Use of Social Media

The quiet influence process takes those strengths in order, adding one to the previous each, to make a process that can be powerful.  About “Taking Quiet Time”, Kahnweiler says that “being silent provides energy, increases self-awareness and spurs creativity”.  I hadn’t thought of it that way before, but it’s quite true.  Our quiet recharge times give us a lot more than just energy, don’t they?

Next comes Preparation.  I don’t know about the rest of you, but I like to do my research, look at things from different angles, and then rehearse, rehearse, rehearse.  “Through creating a strategy and asking questions, they become more comfortable and confident in their efforts to influence others.”


Those two strengths provide the core of the process.  To that we can add one or more of the remaining strengths.  Engaged Listening builds “rapport and mutual understanding” which can lead to Focused Conversations, which are “purpose-driven dialogues in which they problem solve and work through conflicts with others”.

Then there is Writing, through which quiet influencers “articulate authentic, well-developed positions to make a difference with others”.  We end with Thoughtful Use of Social Media, which allows us to reach a broader audience… just like this blog does.

Kahnweiler closes the chapter by noting that we don’t have to excel in all the strengths, or use them all every time.

Chapter 3 is a test to determine my Quiet Influence Quotient (QIQ).  I can’t give you the test here because of copyright issues, but you check out the book yourself, or take the test on the author’s web site.  (Note:  the free quiz that is listed on the web site isn’t the same one that is in the book.  i didn’t find the free quiz to be very interesting or revealing.)  The test in the book has eighteen questions that you answer on a sliding scale to assess your strengths.

Stay tuned for my summary of Chapter 3.  I’ll also take you into the remainder of the book where each strength is explored in more depth.

Previous blogs:

1. Quiet Influence for Introverts

2. What Shapes Introverts

3.  Six Strengths of Quiet Influencers


 Hi.  I’m Chris.  I’m an introvert.  All of my postings tend to reflect my introvert world in some way or another.  Join me and like minded introverts for a special slant on the world.

5 thoughts on “Quietly Influencing – The Process

  1. I really like your summaries of this book. It’s nice to know that my obsession with being prepared isn’t a neurotic tendency caused by lack of self-confidence, but a characteristic of introverted people 🙂

  2. Those are definitely the strengths I use that make me feel most effective. Carving out time to myself is usually the hardest challenge. I don’t get enough time alone to rejuvenate. Especially when I travel for work. They try to fill up every minute with social activities. It wears me out.

    • I hate that when you travel for work and they cram your day full. Even the evenings, which are set aside for team bonding. Ugh! The next time I’m stuck in that position, I’m going to start talking introvert and begin educating people. Who knows, I might find there are a lot like us hiding in the group.

      • I doubt you’d be surprised to find out how many introverts there are around you! Unfortunately, we learn to hide in plain sight since society deems our way of doing things to be defective.

        Love the series! Keep going.


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