I have taken up a challenge for my new year coming up, to go 21 days without complaining. Yes, complaining. Think it’s easy? Guess again. I’m on Day 1. I started on Saturday, it’s now Wednesday, and I’m on Day 1. See, that’s part of the challenge. When you mess up, you start all over again.
Saturday, Day 1: a snarky comment about Western medicine (don’t get me started on our medical system in America) has me starting over.
Sunday, Day 1: I made it the whole day! This might not be as hard as it sounds. (Most people take many months to go the whole 21 days without messing up.)
Monday, Day 2: I got unduly annoyed at Facebook notifications that I can’t seem to turn off, no matter how much I’ve tried. Ugh! Then a made a snotty comment to Siri (Apple’s digital assistant) after I asked her to set a timer for me. I was nasty to a computer. How pathetic!
(Part of what you have to do is define what complaining is for you. You have to say it out loud, or write it to someone else — like a text or email — for it to count. Inside your head mutterings are okay. They just count as practice for the real deal. Teaching you to be mindful of what is going on.
For me, complaining involves a certain amount of negative emotion. It’s not that simple, but that’s a start of a definition. Sarcasm and snide comments are my big downfalls.)
Tuesday, Day 1: got through the whole day! Hooray!!
Wednesday, Day 2: I called myself an idiot, out loud. I never do that. Or do I, and I’m just becoming aware of it?
Tomorrow is Thursday and I’m trying to complete Day 1 again. Wish me luck.
If you’re interested in trying the challenge, read Will Bowen’s book, “A Complaint Free World”, or stop by his web site.