21 Day Challenge – Complaint Free


I have taken up a challenge for my new year coming up, to go 21 days without complaining.  Yes, complaining.  Think it’s easy?  Guess again.  I’m on Day 1.  I started on Saturday, it’s now Wednesday, and I’m on Day 1.  See, that’s part of the challenge.  When you mess up, you start all over again.

Saturday, Day 1:  a snarky comment about Western medicine (don’t get me started on our medical system in America) has me starting over.

Sunday, Day 1:  I made it the whole day!  This might not be as hard as it sounds.  (Most people take many months to go the whole 21 days without messing up.)

Monday, Day 2:  I got unduly annoyed at Facebook notifications that I can’t seem to turn off, no matter how much I’ve tried.  Ugh!  Then a made a snotty comment to Siri (Apple’s digital assistant) after I asked her to set a timer for me.  I was nasty to a computer.  How pathetic!

(Part of what you have to do is define what complaining is for you.  You have to say it out loud, or write it to someone else  — like a text or email  — for it to count.  Inside your head mutterings are okay.  They just count as practice for the real deal.  Teaching you to be mindful of what is going on.  

For me, complaining involves a certain amount of negative emotion.  It’s not that simple, but that’s a start of a definition.  Sarcasm and snide comments are my big downfalls.)

Tuesday, Day 1:  got through the whole day!  Hooray!!

Wednesday, Day 2:  I called myself an idiot, out loud.  I never do that.  Or do I, and I’m just becoming aware of it?

Tomorrow is Thursday and I’m trying to complete Day 1 again.  Wish me luck.

More later…

If you’re interested in trying the challenge, read Will Bowen’s book, “A Complaint Free World”, or stop by his web site.


29 thoughts on “21 Day Challenge – Complaint Free

  1. Oh I love this! I think I’m going to have to ask my dad to start this project. I feel like his negativity is getting the best of him…. It’s a hard sell though and I feel like he’ll be at Day 1 for a long time 😉

    • It will be a hard sell. This isn’t easy, and I’m a positive person. If I could make a gentle suggestion… Go out to the web site, read it over, watch the video, and then start it yourself. My spiritual teacher is always saying that words don’t teach, only life experience teaches. Maybe you setting a good example and talking about your real life experience will be the way in to his heart.

  2. For me it would be like that movie Groundhog Day. Between cursing and complaining I could win an Oscar and an Emmy! LOL!

    I’m up for an award in Mindlessness! LOL! 😀😁😂🤣😃😄😅😆😉😊

    • It is like the movie Groundhog Day. I can’t believe how easy it is for one little comment to slip out. When I called myself an idiot yesterday it was in front of Cee. She had just gotten up and was too sleepy to catch it. I tried to tell myself it didn’t count since she didn’t hear it, but I had to be honest. Back to Day 1.

      • Such a challenge can be frustrating. Since I work with the public my coworkers and I are always the latest act of rudeness and stupidity of management and the general public.
        However I have been able to reduce complaining or at least direct my complaints to someone who has the power to fix the problem.

        • Your situation is challenging, but I also know what a loving person you are, just by how you adore your brother.
          I’m having to reframe how I look at things at work. I’ll be writing about those experiences, too. There’s a lot more to this than just stopping complaining. It is such a complex subject. Please stay tuned!

  3. Wow! Thanks for posting this on your blog. About a half hour ago I was thinking about how I need to stop complaining about my mom who is living with me. I too would like to be mindful of when I am complaining. Perhaps having an attitude of gratitude instead of complaining would help me. I don’t know if I can make it past day one, but if it helps me be mindful of it, it could change my outlook on my life.

    • I must have heard you! I’ll be writing about tips and tricks, sharing what I’m learning. This is a complicated process because complaining is the tip of a whole iceberg of emotions. The 21 days help you to understand those emotions and teaches you to react differently. Will Bowen’s book is worth a trip to the library. He shares a lot of inspiring stories.

      • Minnesota? I did enjoy visiting but I’ll have to see a lot more of this Earth before I can decide where to move to. Including your area. My wife has been up that way and keeps telling me I have to experience the Northwest. So one day soon we may be knocking on your and Cee’s door! 🙂

        • I thought Cee said you were moving there. You do have to experience the Pac NW, but choose your time of year carefully. It rains from mid-September through most of June, you know. It’s a wonderful, beautiful place to live and we are so happy we moved here.

          • I’m not sure what I might have said to make Cee think I was moving there but I definitely might. I really enjoyed the area. As for picking the right time to visit your area, we get very little rain so I’m of a mind that if we do experience rain on our trip, so much the better! 🙂

  4. ooh 21days – not sure I can achieve that whilst in England. Maybe when I am back in Portugal . . . . . .will definitely start watching myself though 🙂

  5. I want to try. I asked my husband to join me and he just laughed. He is quite vocal about the govt and politics and thinks this is nonsense. He thinks too many people put their head in the sand and are not engaged. My response about being part of the solution instead of complaining did not really resonate. I will take the challenge.

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